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Since 1998, the attorneys of the Law Offices of Marc Grossman have served Upland, Montclair, La Verne, Ontario, Rancho Cucamonga and the surrounding communities. Our reputation of trust, integrity and respect combined with a winning record has made us one of the largest law firms in the Inland Empire. Our success insures that the clients of the Law Offices of Marc Grossman have the same strength and resources of a big L.A. law firm only more affordable. We have experienced attorneys for any legal situation such as: Workers compensation attorneys, Caring family law Attorneys, Tough DUI defense lawyers, Fierce criminal defense attorneys, Bankruptcy lawyers, Winning personal injury attorney, Business/civil litigation attorneys, Immigration attorneys, Social security disability attorneys, Employment lawyers, Special education attorneys, Insurance bad faith Lawyers.
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Attorney Marc Grossman Wins Freedom Of Convicted Murderer After 20 Years in Prison
After more than 20 years in prison and several failed attempts for parole, Attorney Marc Grossman of Upland, California was able free a victim of gay bashing convicted of murder in 1986. Despite many state and federal court decisions concluding that Robert Rosenkrantz’s constitutional rights of due process had been violated by California’s parole system by continuing to deny him parole after he had served more than the minimum length of his sentence, first Governor Grey Davis and then Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger had repeatedly denied Rosenkrantz the opportunity for parole until attorney Marc Grossman was able to secure his release.
Gay Bashing Precipitated the Murder
Rosenkrantz was just out of highschool and barely 18 years old in 1985. It was a different time, when being gay was not an accepted social norm and coming out could expose you to bullying and other forms victimization especially if you were a high school student. One night in June 1985, Rosenkrantz was with a male companion in his parents’ beach house, when his younger brother Joey and a friend, Steven Redman, a classmate of Rosenkrantz, arrived to spy on him. Redman had suspected that Rosenkrantz was gay and now Redman knew first hand. Redman kicked in the door of the beach house and yelled, “Get the fuck out of here you faggots,” and then struck Rosenkrantz with the flashlight, breaking his nose. Joey, was carrying a stun gun and burned his brother’s hand while attempting to use it on him. Rosenkrantz ran out to his car and retrieved a BB gun. He used it to try to pin down Redman and Joey to prevent them from leaving the beach house. Joey and Redman called Rosenkrantz’s father and, when he arrived, they told him that they had seen Rosenkrantz with another man engaged in a sex act.
Rosenkrantz insisted to his father he was not gay and that the two were mistaken, but his father, angry, threw him out of the house. Rosenkrantz was distraught after having been outed in such a callous manner. He spent a few days living in his car, where he became more and more upset with the recent events. At some point he acquired an Uzi machine gun after which he confronted Redman and demanded that he take back what he had said to Rosenkrantz’s father. Redman refused and continued to taunt and ridicule Rosenkrantz calling him “faggot” and making other disparaging remarks. The teen was so angered by Redman’s actions that he shot him and killed him.
The Court Case
Prosecutors first sought a first degree murder, but understandably, the jury demonstrated empathy for Rosenkrantz, obviously recognizing that the teen was a victim of gay bashing. The result was that Rosenkrantz was convicted of second degree murder and sentenced to 15 years to life, plus two years for using a firearm.
Time in Prison
Rosenkrantz proved to be a model prisoner, compiling a perfect record, and earning two college degrees and a number of vocational certificates. He also completed every available therapy and counseling program and received stellar recommendations from prison officials in support of his applications for parole once he had served his minimum time.
Yet each time he attempted to be released on parole, he was ultimately rejected buy two different governors. Rosenkrantz’s parole appeals became notorious in the California gay community, where many people came to understand the nature of the provocation and strain under which Rosenkrantz was operating at the young age of 18.
After a long and difficult battle, the state and federal courts both decided that by continuing to deny parole based entirely on the nature of the offense was depriving Rosenkrantz of his right to due process of law. The governing statutes provided that a convict who has served the minimum time required under his sentence is entitled to release if his rehabilitation results in him no longer being a danger to the community. No one in the prison system presented a single piece of evidence that indicated Rosenkrantz posed an ongoing threat to the public. In fact, Rosenkrantz’s own efforts to become college educated and to learn new trades demonstrated his ability to be a productive member of society and worthy of being released from prison. The court saw that Rosenkrantz had accepted responsibility for what he had done, understood and acknowledged that it was wrong, and transformed himself to become a useful, non-threatening member of society and, therefore, should be released on parole.
This lead to the federal court and the California Supreme Court ordering Rosenkrantz to be released. Less than a week after the courts ruled in Rosenkrantz’s favor, he was released on parole to his parents who had long ago come to accept that their son was gay. Upon his release he started a career in information technology.
There video related to this post is excerpted from a KCAL 9 interview with Criminal Defense Attorney shortly after the release of Rosenkrantz. Today being homosexual, gay, lesbian, bi or transgender is widely accepted. While the actions that Rosenkrantz took as a result of having been a victim of gay bashing were wrong, one must recognize that had the same events occurred today, the outcome would likely have been much different.
Attorney Marc Grossman is a supporter of gay rights and has represented many gay, lesbian and transgender people in actions to protect their rights, to assist them in divorces and to represent them in their unique criminal situation.
If you have been a victim of gay bashing or if you have been harassed by the police or government official because you are gay, lesbian or transgender the Law Offices of Marc Grossman can help. If you are contemplating divorce, the Law Offices of Marc Grossman is one of the few experts in same sex marriage and same sex divorce. We invite you to call us at 855-LOMG-911 or complete one of the many contact forms that you will find on our website, www.wefight4you.com. We are here to help.
The most basic concept underlying the lawyer-client relationship is that lawyer-client interactions are privileged, or private. This suggests that legal representatives cannot reveal clients’ oral or written statements (nor attorneys’ own statements to clients) to anybody, including prosecutors, companies, friends, or family members, without their client’s permission. It does not matter whether defendants admit their guilt or insist on their innocence; Attorney-client interactions are confidential. Both court-appointed legal representatives and private defense attorneys are similarly bound to preserve client confidences.
Beyond the attorney-client relationship, you can compromise the privilege or your “right to remain silent” by doing any of the following:
Speaking in a Public Location
Suppose you discuss your case with your lawyer in a restaurant, loud enough for other diners to overhear the conversation. Can they testify to exactly what you stated? Yes. Lawyer-client communications are personal only if they are made in a context where it would be affordable to expect that they would remain confidential (Katz v. U.S., U.S. Sup. Ct. 1967). A defendant who speaks to an attorney in such a loud voice that others overhear exactly what is said has no reasonable expectation of personal privacy and hence waives (gives up) the opportunity. Likewise, individuals who discuss their cases on mobile phone in public locations run the risk of losing confidentiality.
Jailhouse Conversations by means of Phone
Jailhouse discussions between the accused and their lawyers are thought about confidential, as long as the conversation takes place in a private area of the jail and the attorney and defendant do not speak so loudly that jailers or other prisoners can overhear exactly what is said.
Exactly what about phone conversations, either in person (speaking on phones, separated by a glass partition) or using a pay phone? Defendants must be really mindful not to allow jailers and even other prisoners to overhear exactly what they say on the telephone. These people occasionally eavesdrop, in person or on the telephone, and after that declare that they had the ability to overhear incriminating info due to the fact that the accused spoke in a loud voice. (Inmates often aim to curry favor with district attorneys through such techniques.) If a judge thinks them, the opportunity is lost and a jailer or other prisoner can testify to an offender’s remarks.
In some cases, jailers warn a detainee that phone calls are or might be monitored. That warning alone might indicate that telephone call between prisoners and their legal representatives may not be privileged. If a jailer monitors a call and overhears a prisoner make a destructive admission to the prisoner’s legal representative, the jailer can most likely affirm to the offender’s statement in court. Losing Your Right to Confidentiality: Welcoming Others to be Present.
For completely reasonable factors, the accused often desire their father and mothers, partners, or buddies to be present when they seek advice from their attorneys. Does that mean that the discussion will not be thought about private?
The legal representative can keep the benefit by encouraging a judge that it was necessary to include the unfamiliar person in the conversation. If the 3rd party can shed light on the case or otherwise assist the lawyer establish a method, that person’s presence would not damage the privacy of the discussion.
Sharing the Conversation with Others Later on.
Blabbermouth people accused of a crime waive (give up) the confidentiality of lawyer-client interactions when they divulge those statements to somebody else (aside from a spouse, since a different benefit exists for spousal communications; most states also acknowledge a priest-penitent privilege). The accused have no expectation of privacy in discussions they reveal to others.
The Bottom Line.
The only person that you should discuss your case with is your attorney. You must also be mindful of your surroundings and circumstances so that you do not inadvertently divulge damaging information about your case to third parties. You should not tell your friends or family about your criminal case either.
California family court judges primarily look at two factors when calculating child support:
1. Each parent’s income
2. Time spent by each parent with the child/children
However, many other factors that can affect child support amounts including: child care expenses, mortgages, taxes, and other bills and obligation that affect the family’s financial situation.
Judges have very little discretion in setting child support amounts, they must all follow the same guidelines when calculating child support. This formula is complicated and the only practical way to calculate it is but use of court approve software. You and your spouse are required to provide accurate information from which the ultimate monthly amount will be determined. This information is subject to the judge’s approval as it is common for parents to distort their income or debt situation to tip the scale in their favor. However, an attorney from the Law Offices of Marc Grossman will fight to insure the correct information is obtained to determine your child support amount. With our help, the court will see through the charade and order a fair and reasonable amount of child support.
Whatever child support is ordered, it will continue until the child is 18. However, thing happen in life like the loss of job, your spouse starting a new job and other situation where you or spouse’s financial situation has changed. If something like that occurs, you should ask the Law Offices of Marc Grossman to assist you in modifying or re-calculating the child support amount. This can be done at almost anytime but should be done immediately if you are the one ordered to pay child support and your income drops or you cannot afford to pay the child support due to some change in your financial situation. This is because the child support amount continues to accrue at the last ordered rate until it is modified.
For many people, filing for bankruptcy can give them a fresh financial start. But if bankruptcy is right for you depends on many factors and consulting with an attorney from the Law Offices of Marc Grossman may be the best the way to find out.
You should evaluate all of your options before deciding to file for bankruptcy. What types of debt do you have? What are you trying to achieve by filing for bankruptcy? Kepp in mind that a bankruptcy does not discharge all types of debt (priority creditors). If you are trying to get rid a priority creditor but you are otherwise OK financially, a bankruptcy may not do you any good. In other situations, creditors may be willing to work with you so that you can avoid bankruptcy altogether.
The most common bankruptcies are Chapter 7 and Chapter 13 and both have specific eligibility criteria. For a Chapter 7, you must be able to show that your income is below the means test threshold. For a Chapter 13, there are limits on the amount of debt, the amount of real property and your disposable income.
Are You Being Sued?
Creditors and other people may sue you to collect money that you owe them. If a you are being sued you should immediately contact the Law Offices of Marc Grossman. Bankruptcy will stop most lawsuits and stop garnishments and other levies and attachments but you must act quickly. Many times once your account has been levied it is a struggle to get it back. After filing for bankruptcy, an automatic stay goes into effect. The automatic stay will stop almost every collection action or lawsuit against you and eliminate the associated debt.
Are You Being Foreclose on or Repossess Your Property?
Secured debt like a house or car may be foreclosed on or repossessed if you fall behind on payments. However, in most cases filing for bankruptcy will stop all such actions at least temporarily. Your attorney from the Law Offices of Marc Grossman can often use this time to negotiate with your lender to save your home or car. Not every home or car can be saved but the sooner you call your lawyer, the better the chances are that you can save your property.
How Much Property Do You Own?
In most cases you will not lose any personal property by filing bankruptcy. However, there are limitations on the value of the property that you can retain. The law provides exemptions for many different categories of property. The Law Offices of Marc Grossman will discuss those exemptions with you and assist you in determining if your property exceeds the exemption. You may determine that filing for bankruptcy isn’t appropriate for you at this time.
You and your can’t get along well enough to stay married so how are you supposed to workout a reasonable child custody arrangement. These 10 rules won’t solve all of your problems but they may help ease some of the tension and help you workout a child custody arrangement that you both can live with.
Rule #1: Both parties have equal rights to child custody.
Not so long ago in California and most other states, child custody was almost always given to the mother with dad only receiving visitation, usually every other weekend. Well, times have changed. In the first three quarters of the 20th century, dads had a relatively modest role in child rearing. The feminist movement of the 60’s and 70’s brought about a major shift in the traditional parenting roles. Women began to work more and more outside of the home and so dads had to step up and assume some of the roles that mom had handled. At first the Ward Cleavers’ of the world resented their new family job assignments but, soon Ward Cleaver (Leave It to Beaver) became Mike Brady (Brady Bunch) became Jason Seaver (Growing Pains), who became Philip Banks (Uncle Phil, Fresh Prince), until today where we have Cameron Tucker and Mitchell Pritchett (Modern Family). Most modern dads embrace being a dad and enjoy their parenting time and mom and dad both work full-time. As times change and social norms with it, the child custody laws and judges’ dispositions have changed as well. Modern child custody laws in California give mom and dad a equal footing (at least in theory). Mom is no longer presumed to be the custodial parent. Dad, if he is able and willing, has as much right to custody as mom. Today 20-30% of all divorce cases have end with a near equal amount of custody being vested in both parents. Those dads who do not end up with a even split of custody time, usually end up with nearly 40% custody. What does that mean? It means mom should not assume that because she gave birth to her child that she can dictate the terms of custody and dad should expect to have a significant role in the child’s life. Coming to terms with these realities will help you arrive at a reasonable child custody arrangement that works for everyone.
Rule #2: Hold your tongue
Competitors in sports often “talk smack” in an effort to gain a psychological advantage over their opponents. Unfortunately, the same is true with divorcing parents. Its over, the end of the relationship has come and emotions are high but if both parents can resolve to be civil, the issue of child custody will be easier to address. Remaining cordial will make the divorce proceeding as a whole will go more smoothly, it will cost you much less in attorney’s fees and it will make it easier on your kids by not having to live with the drama. Being civil and cordial is a decision that you can make. Let your attorney do the fighting; you keep a pleasant smile and tone to your voice. Even if your spouse is acting like someone from the Exorcist, if you do not respond in kind, eventually your spouse will run out of steam and start behaving more rationally. Now, the most important part of this rule: LEAVE YOUR KIDS OUT OF IT. They are unwilling participants in your competition so using them as your messenger or saying hateful things about your spouse to them is nothing short of cruel. It may make you feel like you are getting even with your spouse but what you are really doing is almost guaranteeing your child will have issues in their relationships in the future but, more about that later.
Rule #3: It all about your kids.
The decision to get a divorce may have been yours but child custody is about what is objectively best for your kids. Your kids need o have significant and meaningful, regular contact with their parents. You may feel as though the kids are better off with you and, under some circumstance that may be true. However, if your spouse is not abusive, does not take your kids to a drug deal and does not drink and drive with the kids strapped to the roof, they have a right to see the kids often and, moreover, the kids have a right to see both parents often. Let your ego and hatred for you spouse go and think objectively and rationally about what is best for your kids. If your kids are old enough to understand and if they are emotionally capable of handling it, you can ask them what they want to do. Maybe some days it will be, “I want to see daddy” and some days it maybe, “I want to see mommy” but whatever it is, try to listen to them and respect their wishes whenever possible.
Rule #4: Know your limits and respect the limits of your spouse.
Divorcing parents often want to fight for as much time as they can get despite the fact they do not have the ability to care for the kids during that time. How silly is it when one parent says, “I am available at that time, I can take care of the kids,” and the other parent fights for the same time slot even though it means that the kids will go to a babysitter instead of the other parent. If you known it is unlikely that you will be able to care for the kids during a particular time and your ex is willing and able to do it, do yourself a favor and let your spouse take care of the kids.
Rule #5: Don’t over step your custodial time
Kids have nearly an unlimited list of activities in which they can participate. Some, like school, are not optional but, others, like karate or the chess team, are not mandated activities. What activities your child should participate in and when is not your decision alone. Before you sign your kid up for little league, you must discuss it with your spouse and workout the details. You do not have the unilateral right to sign the kids up for activities that infringe on your spouse’s custody time of their ability to see the kids without first consulting with them.
Rule #6: You may not like them but that doesn’t mean they are a bad parent
So your ex can’t remember to put the seat down or they can’t resist a shoe sale even if it makes them late for an important meeting, that does not make them a bad parent. The kids may come home from dad’s with a dirty face or mom may forget to send back the new jacket that you bought for them to wear but that does not make them bad parents. If your kids are safe, have a place to sleep, plenty to eat and receive lots of love from your ex, that is all that will matter in 10 years. Don’t judge your ex or try to make them measure up to your standards. You are getting divorced for those reasons. Let your ex and your kids love each other in their own way.
Rule #7: Communicate don’t escalate
Come to terms with the fact that you must deal with your ex on one level or another until your kids are at least 18 years old and probably long after. Come up with a system so that the two of your will have minimal contact at first until emotions have cooled. Share a calendar on Google or some other online calendar that is strictly for the kids. Use Google Drive or DropBox to save and share important documents like birth certificates, vaccination records, insurance cards, notices of from school and sporting events and even report cards. When you share documents using one of these tools, it will email your spouse notifying them that something new has posted or changed. This will keep you both informed will minimizing the chance for conflict and misunderstandings. Many divorced couples continue to use a system like this for years because it is easy and convenient.
Rule #8: Don’t fight over stupid things
Parenting is tough when you live together but the level of difficulty goes way up when the kids are with dad sometimes and mom others. It would be great if both parents had the same style and household rules but the reality is, that rarely happens. This gives rise to many conflicts but the vast majority of those conflicts are rooted in something completely unimportant. Take a breath and a step back and ask yourself if what you are upset about is going to matter in 10 years. If the answer is “no” then take two chill pills and let it go. Scream into your pillow or take up kickboxing to relieve the pent up hostility but to direct it at your spouse when the object of your vexation is of equal importance to squeezing the toothpaste from the bottom or if the toilet paper feed over or under the roll.
Rule #9: Listen to your kids when they are not talking.
We already talked about listening to your kids when they are talking about custody issues but it may be just as important to observe their behavior when they are not talking. They did not get a vote in your decision to get divorced and they will likely have very conflicted emotions over the it. When kids are under stress or dealing with the loss of their established family, kids may act out or become isolated. They may cry or act angry. These are all symptoms of emotional disturbances. It makes matters much worse if the kid feels like they are being made to choose. Start by seeking some counselling for them but also ask them if they would like to go see their other parent. It may help to relieve some stress if they know that they do not have to choose. Give them the emotional freedom to choose when they would like to see mom or dad. If it isn’t possible for them to see their other parent, a distant second to seeing them is to call or Skype with mom or dad.
Rule #10: Review and reassess your child custody agreement
As kids grow, things change. Different activities and obligations will dictate changes in your child custody arrangement. Use the above rules to work through adjustments in your custody agreement as needed. Be flexible and make your kid’s best interests the primary factor in every child custody agreement.
Emotions run high during a divorce and sometimes for many years after a final dissolution judgment has been entered. Often divorcing couples compound their problems by allowing emotions to cloud their judgment and influence their actions. It is understandable, child custody issues, child support and spousal support payments often foster resentment not to mention the dividing up your home, furniture, retirement and even your pets can create a lot of animosity between a man and wife or same-sex couple. When faced with the further prospect of long-term legal problems, child visitation issues or dealing with recurring, self-serving false allegations being made by your former spouse, a divorced person will often dig in and become entrenched in a legal battle that nobody wins.
Avoiding these 10 mistakes may help you avoid a long, contentious divorce and ease tension between you and your ex before it costs you thousands in legal fee.
1. Losing Your Temper
OK, everyone gets it, your ex is evil and they are making you crazy. They make false and misleading statements to influence the court, they tell your kids awful things about you in an attempt to turn them against you, they destroyed your baseball card collection or keyed your classic Thunderbird that you just had completely restored, posted naked pictures of you on the internet or hid rotten fish all over your house, in your briefcase and even in your desk at work. The fish isn’t the only thing that stinks. A breakup of a marriage sucks and it is really easy to lose control of your emotions and act out of anger but that is always a mistake. Losing your temper and saying or doing something to your ex when you are mad will only lead to more problems. It is best to leave the communication with your ex to your attorney. They have dealt with every situation imaginable so don’t be embarrassed to tell your lawyer about any difficult situation with former spouse. The family law specialists at the Law Offices of Marc Grossman know how to deal with even the most difficult situation. Our experienced family law attorneys will fight for your rights and defend you against your evil, fish toting former spouse so you don’t have to. Remember acting on anger will only hurt you so, before you say something you will regret or do something like damage property or physically lash out, put down the fish and pick up the phone. Our divorce lawyers are tough enough to handle any crazy ex-spouse. Remember the five “C’s”:
Calm – No matter how much your ex may try to push your buttons, stay calm.
Cordial – Avoid escalating the situation by remaining cordial in the face of craziness.
Communication – Limit your communication with your ex to only what is necessary.
Constitutionalize – It means to “take a walk for your health” and there is no better advice than to walk away before you say or do something regrettable.
Counsel – Seek counsel, go tell your attorney about the situation.
In most cases, the spouse that can approach his or her divorce in a calm, methodical manner will come out ahead. Eventually, reason will prevail and your cool head will minimize your attorney fees and bring your divorce to a faster conclusion.
2. Not Knowing What Assets You and Your Spouse Have
One of the most common mistakes that divorcing people make is not taking an inventory of the community assets (and debts in some cases). When you first meet with one of the trusted attorneys at the Law Offices of Marc Grossman, they will ask you about what property or other assets you and your spouse may own. Some people will say that they don’t have any assets but that is rarely true. The longer the marriage, the more likely it is that valuable community property assets exist but, even in a short marriage, a couple may buy a house or car, make investments from community income, contribute to a 401k or pension or buy a life insurance policy with a cash value. The earlier in a divorce that a reputable attorney, like you will find at the Law Offices of Marc Grossman, learns of your community assets, the sooner your lawyer can take action to protect your rights. You may not know that you are entitled to one half of the community property share of your husband’s pension or that you may have an interest in a house that was purchased by your wife prior to your marriage but paid for primarily from your income during the marriage. Our family law specialists will protect your rights and your property but, your attorney needs your help in identifying everything of value that you may have an interest in.
3. Thinking that a prenuptial agreement will protect you
When one or both spouses have significant premarital assets or income it is common to ask your family law specialist to draft a prenuptial or postnuptial agreement. However, you are making a mistake if you rely solely on that agreement to protect you in contentious divorce. There are dozens of reasons why such an agreement may be invalid or illegal at the time of the divorce even if it was perfectly valid when it was drafted. One of our knowledgeable divorce lawyers can identify potential problems and prepare to take the necessary steps to protect your rights.
4. Not taking the time to heal or not letting go
It is a big mistake if you don’t take the time to recover emotionally after you split up but what may be even a bigger mistake not letting go. After a breakup and even before the divorce is final, spouses need to take some time to heal and mourn the loss of the relationship. No matter what anyone may say, a divorce is traumatic but when the relationship is over, then it is over. Stay away from your ex, don’t call them, don’t email them and definitely don’t drop by unannounced late at night. Take some time to breath and it is a good idea to see a therapist if you have unresolved feelings that you just can’t get past. The family law specialists at the Law Offices of Marc Grossman are caring and compassionate. Our attorneys understands your situation and they can often point you in the right direction to get help. Our divorce lawyers will also serve as a buffer between you and your former spouse to support and protect your rights while you are going through this difficult time.
5. Using social media as an outlet
Social media is everywhere these days and individuals going through a divorce will often turn to social media to express their feelings about their divorce or to show off all of the fun they are having being single again. The best advice here is DON’T. If you need to seek sympathy ear, do it offline. If you need to vent some anger or frustration, tell your friend or therapist. If you feel like verbally attacking your ex, write a letter to them and then burn it. None of these things are productive and if you do them you run the risk of alienating your friends, aggravating your spouse and making problems worse. There is nothing to be gained by making hurtful comments on social media. Take a break from it all, put your account on hold and reconnect with your friends face-to-face. Whatever you do, don’t post photo’s of yourself in drunk or in compromising positions on social media or make salacious remarks about your ex. Keep in mind that anything you post on social media can be used against you in your divorce. If your spouse launches an attack on you on social media, do not respond but do call you family law attorney at the Law Offices of Marc Grossman.
6. Allowing misunderstandings to interfere with child visitation
There are many circumstances where you must communicate with your spouse especially when children are involved. Child custody and temporary visitation schedules often lead to misunderstandings. You can avoid most misunderstandings by reviewing your child visitation schedule with one of the highly regarded family law lawyers from the Law Offices of Marc Grossman. Your experienced attorney will take the time to explain the exact time for you to exchange the kids with your spouse. If is not uncommon for the court to order the child visitation (custodial period) exchange to take place at a neutral location or for one party or the other to provide transportation to and from child visitation. In most cases a special holiday child visitation schedule will be a good idea. All of the forms, orders and other court documents can be confusing. Many attorneys don’t give their clients the personal attention that clients of the Law Offices of Marc Grossman receive. While our lawyers take the time to make sure that you understand all of the orders and related laws, your spouse’s attorney probably didn’t do the same. Unfortunately, misunderstandings over child custody and visitation usually result in unnecessary court hearings so that the family law judge can settle the dispute. Rather than argue with your spouse, follow the 5 “C’s”, walk away and call your family law specialist at the Law Offices of Marc Grossman. In most cases if you do so, your lawyer will be able to resolve the misunderstand with your ex, avoid unnecessary court hearings and save you money in attorney’s fees. You should always keep in mind that your children are at the center of these misunderstandings and they are the most affected. Using the assistance of a competent family law attorney to avoid misunderstandings and custody disputes will shield your children from the dispute and minimize the long term emotional impact on them.
7. You cannot be replaced
A common mistake divorcing couples is to take on a defensive posture with their ex-spouse’s new husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend or partner. Your animosity toward your ex’s new significant other is not productive. It may be natural for you to want to yell profanity at them or punch them in the face every time that you see them but, doing so has consequences that are contrary to your best interest. Accepting that the relationship is over and letting go means accepting that your ex will move on. As long as your ex’s new partner isn’t hostile toward you or harming your children then you should apply the 5 “C’s” to them as well. If your ex’s new spouse is acting aggressive or hostile toward you or you suspect that they are doing something inappropriate with your children, let the expert divorce and child custody attorneys of the Law Offices of Marc Grossman take immediate action to resolve the conflict and protect your rights and your children from harm. Remember, you will always be “mom” or “dad” and that isn’t going to change, you cannot be replaced.
8. Kids come first
Those little bundles of joy, no matter how big or small, are most divorced parent’s primary concern, as it should be. A mistake that is easy to make is letting yourself become so mired in emotions that you forget about what the kids are going through. No matter how much you shelter them or try to shield them from the situation, their is no way to hide the changes the occur. “Daddy moved out.” “Mommy has a new boyfriend.” “Mommy is always mad at daddy.” There is simply too much going on to sweep it under the rug and pretend that its not happening. Spend some time talking to your kids about what is going on. Reassure them that mommy and daddy still loves them. Develop a new routine so that they maintain some sense of stability. The biggest, most harmful mistake divorced people make with their kids is using them as a weapon to inflict hurt on your ex. When emotions are high, it is hard not to make this mistake but if you find yourself telling your child negative things about your ex, preventing the child from going with the other parent during scheduled visitation times or using the kids as your personal messenger service between yourself and your ex, you must summon the strength to do what is right for your kids and stop. Often, clients come to us with heartbreaking accounts of how his or her ex turned their children against them and spoiled the once close relationship. Our caring attorneys child custody attorneys are also loving parents and we take this kind of child abuse seriously. If your spouse is using the kids as a weapon against you, we know how to put a stop to it. The child custody lawyers at the Law Offices of Marc Grossman fight for the children of their clients. Each of our child custody attorneys fight passionately for the kids because we know the sooner their parents can resolve their differences, the sooner the family can begin to heal and the faster the dissolution action with children can be concluded.
9. Trying to avoid child support or alimony
The reality is that what was once one household is now two. The once combined income that made it easy to make ends meet is now two separate incomes with double the bills. This is why so many bankruptcies occur after a divorce, people just can’t make ends meet. This financial crisis is often a shocking revelation to a divorced couple and usually this revelation occurs while emotions are at their peak and both parties are struggling to reestablish themselves. The party who earns the least, may also be the one who has the kids most of time. Naturally, there is a growing resentment between the couple and it is typically at this stage when one of the parties asks the court for a order establishing child support and spousal support (also called alimony). No divorced person is happy to be hit with child support and alimony and usually the amount ordered is much more than they think it should be. Once hit with the “A” bomb, the person ordered to pay alimony or child support may resist paying. They “forget” to mail the check or they suddenly get laid off (but secretly work under the table) all in an effort to avoid paying support. The legislature has established almost draconian laws to force divorced people to keep their court ordered obligation. Those who don’t pay will have their credit ruined and can be found in contempt of court and made to serve jail time. They will lose their driver’s license and professional license, tax returns and most of their paychecks. However, enforcing a child support order or alimony is not an automatic process, especially when it is alimony. If your ex isn’t paying what they were ordered to pay or not at all, the tough, aggressive family law attorneys at the Law Offices of Marc Grossman are experts in child support and spousal support collection. Our lawyers know how to discover the hidden income sources of your ex and they are relentless is fighting to insure your ex pays what they owe.
If you are not an electrician, it wouldn’t be wise to rewire your own house even if you were legally entitled to do so. If you are not a dentist, it wouldn’t be wise to fill your own cavities even if you were legally entitled to do so. The foreseeable result of rewiring your own house when you have no experience as an electrician is that your house will burn down and drilling into your own teeth when you are not a dentist will cause you a great deal of pain. Why is it then that many electricians, dentists, auto mechanics, housewives and mail carriers think that it is good idea to represent themselves in court? The law does give you the right to represent yourself but that doesn’t mean that it is wise especially in a divorce case. There is so much riding on the outcome of a divorce; your house, kids, retirement, saving even your dog are on the line. Some people think that it is too expensive to hire an attorney but, if it meant that you could lose it all, wouldn’t it be worth hiring an attorney? Well in some cases it does. If your ex has an attorney then it is even more important to have a reputable attorney on your side. Don’t let money be the reason you do not have proper legal representation. The Law Offices of Marc Grossman has many options that make hiring a top attorney possible for almost anyone. Our helpful divorce and child custody attorneys care and really want to help you through this time. Call us at 855-LOMG-911 or complete the contact form to request a free consultation.